Safe Sex Advice for over 50 dating
Online dating safer
sex tips...
Why
practise safer sex?
If spontaneity is the aim, this advice might seem a little off-putting.
It's not meant to discourage anyone from enjoying sex, but to
help you to have healthier, happier and safer sex. Catching
an infection is a lot more off-putting than taking care of yourself
and your partner, so here are some measures to help you protect
yourself from ALL sexually-transmitted infections.
Many viral and bacterial sexually-transmitted
infections are easier to catch and more common than HIV, which
is why this guide is about more than just using a condom for
penetrative sex.
One million people are infected with STIs around
the world every day of the year.
Oral sexually-transmitted gonorrhoea is on the rise in the UK.
Precautions for greater
safety
Penetrative vaginal sex - a condom should be put on before
any genital contact, 
especially
if the woman isn't using additional, reliable birth control.
There are enough live sperm and germs at the tip of an erect
penis to cause pregnancy or infection without penetration or
ejaculation.
Penetrative anal sex - use a non-spermicidally-lubricated
condom with extra water-based or silicone lubricant at all times.
It's wise to wear an extra-strong condom, and important to use
sufficient water based lubrication, without which the condom
is more likely to burst. Never move from anal to vaginal sex
without changing the condom as this is unhealthy for the woman.
If there's no spare condom handy, then move from the vagina
to the anus rather than the other way around or stay in the
anus until ejaculation. (Sounds fun to us).
Oral sex
To be absolutely safe, it is best to use a condom, especially
if you or your partner are likely to ejaculate in the mouth.
There is now a wide range of flavoured condoms available, so
make sure that you have a good supply of these with you when
you meet. Another alternative is to use a dental dam or even
part of a latex glove.
Foreplay - (fondling, stroking, fingering
and wanking). Cover cuts, sores and other 
skin
lesions on fingers with waterproof plasters or latex gloves,
particularly during a menstrual period or if anal foreplay is
involved. If you don't have latex gloves to hand, it's safer
to use a non-spermicidally-lubricated condom over one or two
fingers than bare hands.
If you're not using protection and you're going
to move on to vaginal foreplay, it's vital to wash your hands
after anal foreplay.
Sex toys - if you're sharing toys, use
the same level of protection as for penetrative sex. Wash toys
thoroughly between partners. Keep whips, chains and other articles
used during S&M (sadomasochistic) fetish foreplay for personal
use, particularly if you draw blood (or body fluids containing
blood) during use.
Masturbation - there's no risk of infection
if you're alone and using 
unshared
items, unless a disease from one part of the body infects another
through poor hygiene technique. An unwashed finger, for example,
can spread genital gonorrhoea or chlamydia to the eye. During
masturbation or mutual masturbation with a friend or partner,
please follow the guidelines for foreplay and make sure that
no semen is introduced into the vagina or anus - just in case.
Bisexual adventures
Ensure that you follow all of the above advice, whatever activity
you are enjoying. It is very easy for one thing to lead to another
in the heat of the moment and a few minutes lack of care could
lead to an infection - or worse!
